We’re often lost for words when our friend faces a loss of a loved one. It’s hard to move. It’s hard to find the right words to say. You become very careful in choosing what will come out of your mouth.
We understand how paralyzing it could be to see a friend mourning. But still, we got to do what we have to do. That is, to be there for our dear friend at this difficult time of his or her life. As such, we should know how to play our roles well.
Here are some ideas on how to extend kind gestures to a friend who’s going through the pain of a loss.
It takes time to regain composure after finding out about the death of a loved one. Despite this fact, funeral arrangements have to be made right after the occurrence of this sad news.
These are the times when the assistance of the family’s friends is much needed. If you’ve learned of your friend’s bereavement early on, offer assistance to make arrangements for the funeral. It will help him a lot if you find a reputable company that offers services specifically for their faith like a Buddhist funeral package or a Christian funeral service. If allowed, you can even help them handle some legal matters so they can use the time to mourn for their loss.
Send flowers and similar gifts for the funeral
If you’re too busy to offer assistance for funeral arrangements, you can simply extend a kind gesture by sending flowers and wreaths for the funeral. Funeral flowers come in all shapes and sizes so you can choose the best ones to send to your friend.
Aside from flowers which are ordinary funeral gifts, you can also give candles or funeral snacks for those who will be visiting. This way, you can lessen their expenses and the chores that they have to attend to.
Send personal presents after the funeral
Most people say that it is after the funeral that the whole family mourns the most. When all is said and done and the row of people who visit ends, that’s when your friend will feel the absence of the deceased.
Therefore, continue sending personal gifts to him or her even after the funeral. It could be in a form of a letter, a bouquet of roses, his or her favorite food, healthy snacks, home decorations, a new hobby, or something else.
Extend patience and understanding
If you are used to spending regular time with your friend, it might be a little different now that she or he is morning. Even when he or she is present on your regular dates, your friend might seem distant, lost, or even easily angered at small things.
He or she may also be overly emotional and this mourning period varies from days to months. Extend your patience and understanding even when it comes to a point that he or she becomes unreasonable. This shouldn’t come as a surprise to you because a person who just lost a loved one can be emotionally or psychologically unstable.
Spend time with your friend
We understand that we’re all busy. But if you ask us the best gift to offer to a friend who mourns a loved one’s death, that would be time. Your physical presence is the best show of affection. If you can, give it to your friend at this difficult time of his or her life.